1.in person communication
Ir’a not clear to me exactly what the science is, but it has been evident to me that the lack of affect in online communication creates all kinds of falsity. At first I was aware of confirmation bias, that we see what we disagree with more quickly than that which represents our understanding.
But this is a smaller insight for me than remembering how complicated and subtle human communication is. This real human interaction is impossible to duplicate via computer screens. And it is important. I think it’s essential to how we live as people.
In the second volume of Le Guin’s Earthsea Trilogy the wizard Ged points out to high priestess of the Nameless Ones that they are only able to defeat them by being together as people. This relational moment is presented as an defense against bad stuff.
I have more thoughts on this but need to get this blog done.
I was thinking about how badly people are behaving these days online, in social media and comments and crazy shit in general. Then I began thinking how in my life, I have known an overwhelming majority of people who exhibit traits I admire: genuineness, generosity, lovingness. There are few people I have met that I had difficulty seeing their redeeming qualities even as I could clearly see their flaws.
I know this is “anecdotal” nevertheless I think it represents a second authentic truth that is eroded online: it is a small percentage of people who are duds, assholes, and haters. Most of us just fuck up occasionally. Only now we do it in a public forum that is recorded.
Again it creates a false sense of who we are.